Photographing a Handsome Old Man

Photographing a Handsome Old Man

I want to get people in my pics, but it’s tougher when you’re no longer a wide-eyed teenager, because people generally don’t like to think they are a spectacle.

I

felt somewhat foolish fiddling with my camera in a cafe. I realize I have never much tried to photograph people, preferring instead street scenes and alleged compositions. Now however I very much want to get people in the pix, but I see it’s quite tough when you’re no longer a wide-eyed teenager, because people generally don’t like to think they are a spectacle. Kids love it, but grown-ups and the religiously prone are uptight about it. I understand them, I guess, as it is an invasion; suddenly one is felt as if one is on the spot. It’s interesting to note at what point in our lives people stop loving having our picture taken.

I was also disturbed because I was sitting there too after all yet despite taking his picture I did not wish to speak to this man because when he spoke to me his tone was somewhat bitter. I had assumed that having the camera on the table was much less obtrusive than having it up at my face and aiming it at him. But as I fiddled with the controls and the lens was pointing at him, he knew. I guess it’s better to fiddle with the controls first, then casually aim it later.

Now at this point I should say that for what it’s worth I ask people if they mind before I press the shutter. This man was sort of surprised at the question. He didn’t say no but neither did he seem very happy about it. He picked up a reed and asked if I want a picture of the flower. Then he asked me if I want him to take a picture of my watch (I have a rather chunky Suunto), so it felt like he wanted to shift the attention over to me.

This felt strange to me because these sarcastic jibes are how Israelis speak to their peers, so I felt like I was talking to a contemporary who just happened to have been around a lot longer than me, and not to a wise elder. Also, he looked old enough to me that I thought, What the hell does he care what’s in the stupid weekend newspaper?

So he didn’t refuse, but neither did he seem to understand the obvious: that it wasn’t about him, but rather about catching the scene ⁠— of which he happened to be the dominant part ⁠— all without getting up from my seat cos I’m still a bit half-assed about all this. Plus, it feels sort of peculiar to stick around after taking a picture (I took it while waiting for my own order). Especially in Israel, which is, I think, severely under-photographed outside of the geopolitic angle, the reaction is: Who do you think you bloody are, some sort of foreign tourist? Away and work or produce some children.

This one was also disturbing because it was the first time I shot in such high resolution, and the quality of his ⁠— our ⁠— 80-something-old skin alarmed me. Perhaps this upset his equilibrium too, ie, Ah, you should have taken my picture 50 years ago, then I was something to look at, sonny, but now you’re not doing anyone any favours. All in the Hebrew equivalent, which would translate “sonny” for “chabibi,” which is not quite so pleasant.

There was a period during which I thought I was not long for this world when my perception of our elders shifted totally; instead of pitying them their frailty and physical devastation, I envied them their achievement and acquisition of elderliness. But although I remember having that feeling, I can no longer feel it.

Obviously, both pity and envy are stupid and inappropriate reactions to old age.

The coffee was good. Speaking of which, this is the bar at the original Aroma on Hillel St. Aroma is now a hugely successful cafe franchise in Israel, exploding even during (and obviously partly due to) these economic hard times. The white and red on black menu behind has become a sort of national icon.

The Trail

Sunday, June 21st, 2026

The Software Architect Elevator: Redefining the Architect’s Role in the Digital Enterprise

Gregor Hohpe

Engaging, pleasant, timely and knowing, I was nonetheless somewhat disappointed by the thinness of this book. That said, I’m about to read his next one, Platform Strategy, which is really is the one I wanted to read.

In his Contraptions substack, Venkatesh Rao notes an obvious split that I never fully saw: thinky versus writerly writers:

Those who write to think typically resist any attempt to change the content of what they’re saying, but generally don’t care about style, verbal precision, tightening, and pragmatic cutting suggestions to hit word-count limits.

Those who write to write are typically attached to every word and comma, but can be surprisingly indifferent to substantial content edits and highly open to saying entirely different things than they originally set out to.

I must be mostly of the latter, affirmed by my not having thought enough across the decades to even note the schism.

That said, the best writing is where the thinking may be primary but the author has been an artist over the supporting form.

Wednesday, June 17th, 2026

Amit Segal, longer than usual for his It’s Noon in Israel newsletter, posits the perennial faultline in Israel politics: Jewish vs Israeli.

“Jewish” and “Israeli” are simply the two tenets of Israel’s self-definition as a Jewish and democratic state ⁠— not in open contradiction, since most Israelis hold both, but forever rubbing against each other. Like asking whether strawberry-banana yogurt is more strawberry or banana, Israelis are endlessly asked, in one disguise or another, whether they are slightly more Jewish than democratic or the reverse. Once you see it, most of the news in the country ⁠— most push notifications, most studio shouting matches ⁠— dissolves into that same question, with a thin veneer of fresh event on top.

Segal himself straddles the divide nicely, as does the society writ large, part and parcel of the fading Ashkenazi/Sephardi divide. In my thin slice of observation, secular Israelis who delight in eating swine abroad now light candles and recite more complete prayers at home for Friday night dinner than they used to ⁠— indeed holding Friday night dinner itself is the gateway. And there are so many gateways.

I do however take issue with Amit’s characterization of the Israeli/left side:

Of course we are Jewish, the left answers ⁠— the flag is essentially a prayer shawl, the emblem is the Temple menorah, every kindergartner comes home Friday with a challah ⁠— but that is the décor, not the purpose; the purpose is to be the only democracy in the Middle East.

Instead, it seems to me that people on this side, those of the “villa in the jungle” view, would rather just forget about the jungle; being “the only X in the Middle East” is merely apologetics, not identity. Rather, it’s about being a liberal democracy simply because that is the enlightened, obvious, natural thing to be; anyone with a Yiddisher kopf can see that. And as for the Right downgrading democracy to merely being the operating system, well, that’s what Judaism itself arguably is too, so being the OS is no small thing.